Love yourself first
Being “selfish” is the best thing you can do for other people and yourself. I use to give my time, attention to everyone until I have become empty inside and someone told me that “you can’t pour from an empty glass” if you are going to give yourself everything you need and be happy inside, you will overflow with happiness and then you can help other people, and not the other way around. If you are empty inside you’re not good for yourself or anyone around you.
Take responsibility for your life
Don’t wait for “Mr Right” or a giant event or a miracle to change your life. You and only you are responsible for the life that you live. Don’t wait for the perfect moment, take the moment and make it perfect! Guess what if you don’t change nothing will!
Create your own theory of success
People will tell you that money make you happy and that things make you happy. They will tell you that you have to do this, that and the other to be successful or happy. But deep inside only you know what you want and what makes you happy. Don’t listen to that noise and people who try to tell you that what makes them happy, have to make you happy! Try new things, make lots of mistakes and see for yourself what really brings that spark in your heart. Be honest to yourself, be you and create your own definition of success!
Say no much more often than you say yes
When you are 10,15,20 years old you think that your time is just limitless and you say yes to sooo many things. Of course you should try new things to see what you like and what you don’t, but sometimes we spent too much time on doing the things that we don’t actually like. Stop it. Saying no to things more often will give you more time to do the things that you actually love to do. Say no more often!
Not the fake ones, the real ones. When you see that someone really cares and is on the same wavelength, have similar values in life, make sure you take time to create a friendship. It’s nothing better than having an amazing friend with you at the hard times and being there for someone when they’re feeling down. Never forget someone who loved you and believed in you, even when you didn’t believe in yourself!
Give yourself permission to be sad
I never thought that I will say this! I always wanted to be that happy person, but sometimes you have to understand that they’re going to be times in your life when it just sucks, that’s fine, everyone got those days, just learn not to stay there for a long time! When you feeling down, don’t be alone. Go and see your friends talk to them about your problems. I know that you might think that you are not worth your friends time, that nobody wants to listen to your problems, but believe me people who really care will be happy that you shared your problems with them.
7. Trust that little voice in your head
Yes we all know that little voice in our head that tells us what we really want, but very often we try to kill that voice because we are scared of changes and sometimes scared of success. Start listening to that voice more often and follow your dreams. Make little changes everyday, in no time you will see how your life unfolds. You will be surprised!
Stop comparing yourself to other people
That was a big one for me and to be honest I’m still learning to stop comparing myself to other people! There is always someone that is slimmer, more clever, more successful and luckier than you are. You have to understand that everyone has got a different journey, went through different experiences in life. We cannot compare ourselves to others it’s like comparing an apple to a window. It’s just wrong.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help
I use to be afraid to ask for help because I was thinking that I was failing by asking for help. Now I think that it’s so stupid to think that! If you need help just ask. You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain. Nobody is good at everything. Learn to ask for help it’s a great skill to have. Develop growth mindset instead of the fixed mindset. Talk less, listen more.
Never give up on your dreams
Your dreams, your goals will change from the time you 15 to 20 to 25 and 30 and 50 but you should never give up on them! It doesn’t mean that you will get exactly what you wanted but on the way to your goal or your dream you will meet people, you will grow, experience new things and realise that everything happens for a reason. I really believe it. Never give up on your dreams!
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Lots of love Ewelina x